I am fine. We are all fine. Even if all I do is kvetch.
I do a lot of talking about my feelings. But I fear, lately, that I am sounding worse than I am. I talk about the move, making friends, feeling lonely, missing people, worrying about the kids, etc. I have to – talking is part of my process. I’m an extrovert and I don’t like to keep things in. And, let’s be honest, people rarely talk about the easy things that are going off without a hitch; we talk about things that are a struggle. So I am constantly chatting away and often about things that aren’t awesome. The truth is that things are going pretty well, though. There are up days and down days, but I am not unhappy and even think we are doing pretty well. Besides, for me, I give voice to my problems because problems that you can talk about are manageable ones. You can worry when I stop talking. Just needed to put that out there.
We’ve been in Seattle for almost three weeks now. It’s still a huge adjustment, one that I haven’t even begun to tackle, really. But there are things that we’ve been doing that are really wonderful. We’ve been exploring the city and spending time with friends. We eat dinner together as a family. The girls are doing well. Alexa had her first solid food the other day (I promise to post pictures soon). Avery is interested in playing, running around, making a mess, seeing animals, painting, etc.; mostly she doesn’t care *where* she gets to do that as long as she does. As you can see above, she is jumping and playing with rocks – the fact that the Space Needle is in the background matters little to her. Many of the struggles that we face are struggles we would face anywhere. A two-year-old here is a two-year-old there.
Sometimes, when things are feeling very hard and I get down, it really helps to look at my family and remember that I am doing this for them. My family is awesome. I worried a bit about the fact that moving will necessarily put additional strain on our marriage and on our family. Of course that is true. I think that we are handling it really well, though. Yes, we need the girls to get on a decent schedule so that we can have more alone time. And yes, I probably could use a bit more time to myself so I can do things like write this blog or, I don’t know, pee without an audience. (Finding a babysitter is a high priority at the moment.) But Avery is the sweetest and snuggliest little monster there ever was. Her current favorite saying is, “I love you, too, mama. Much.” Alexa is incredibly cute and charms everyone who sees her with her giant smiles. And Paul and I are having an adventure, which is pretty damn cool. This moving thing, it may not be easy, but I think we have it under control.